There are moments where I do believe that that "being a girl" is completely divorced from my passion for music and the manner in which others perceive that passion. But for the most part, I can't help but recognise that my musical skills, knowledge and passion have been undermined for that very reason.. and I think I've figured out why.
Think of the footage of the thousands of hysterically sobbing, hormonally charged teenage girls, watching the Beatles perform at Shea Stadium. These images have become so seminal because they've reinforced this very idea - this cliché that a girl's attachment to music is so trivial. That it is purely motivated by sexual attraction. The idea that a girl can become intellectually engaged with music becomes so far-fetched that even the label for a female fan is a derogatory term. We are "groupies" or "fangirls" or "band sluts". You can never just be a girl who loves music.
All of that might seem so distant from what we perceive to be happening now, but I really do believe that this is still such a relevant issue. We don't even realise it's happening anymore. As long as we decide to do this, we will always be asked why we aren't assuming our traditional position. Why we aren't behind the barricades, hysterically sobbing for the real musicians.
NB: China of choir croak them out goodies has written a stunning article in response to this. I suggest you go read, post haste!